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Nov 5, 12 •Featured, Inspiration26 Comments

Lynn20 300x237 Back to the FutureI am part of a terrific Facebook group of midlife women bloggers called GenFab (Generation Fabulous). This week we have our first blog hop. All of us have written a post about what we would tell our 20-year-old selves. Here’s mine. Do check out the links below to all the other great stories as well.

Oh little one. You are not all grown up yet. You will be soon, but not yet. For now, just be 20. Within the next 60 months you will graduate, start your journalism career, move 3,000 miles away to California, get married and have your first beautiful baby. Deep breaths, girl.

We, your loving 30-, 40-and 50-year-old selves, are here to tell you that you will make some bonehead decisions and take some doozy left turns, but you are on the right path. It’s just going to take a while. Give yourself a chance now to be more of who you really are so that you don’t have to go through as much crap figuring it all out later.  … Hello? Are you paying attention,  little Ms. Headstrong?  We hope we’re not boring you. Listen up.

First off, lose the boyfriend. He’s a good guy but you’re hiding behind him. Your mother really laid a guilt trip on you about boys – actually she laid guilt trips on you about a lot of things, but that’s another chitty chat. Check out a few more Michaels, Stephens and Davids. Just kiss that nice guy you’ve been with since you were 15 on his hippie-bearded cheek and stick out your thumb on the highway of love. You’ll be just fine.

Next, you don’t know everything. Not now, not ever. So ease up on the controls a bit, will you?  Our Dad has told you many times that life is but a dream. You don’t know what he’s talking about now, but here’s a big fat clue from your grown-up selves: Life goes by so fast it’ll make your pretty little head spin. One day you’ll come to understand Dad was so right about this and you’ll miss hearing him tell you. Relax.

And another thing, lose the drama please. We love you and we’re on your side, but you sure have a way of getting things stuck in that brain of yours. We mean it, missy. Let 98 percent of what enters your Amygdala go on its merry way. It’ll take some practice, but you can do it.

Finally, we’re proud of you little one. You’re a good kid and you will be one hell of a woman, doozies and all. It’s up to you to make your way to us as best you can, but you will get here faster than you can possibly imagine. When you do, we  are going to have one hell of celebration. Maybe we’ll even invite your 60-, 70- and 80-year-old selves to the party.

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25 comments
MarciRich
MarciRich

What a great, uplifting post! And how smart is the advice about losing the drama? Oh I think it would be so amazing if we could all go back to the future and meet our young-selves as our now-selves. Think of the fun we'd have!

BoomerWiz
BoomerWiz

Lose the drama, pu-leeze.  But then so much of what was happening would not have been fun.  I love the "keep it moving" approach. Took a while to get that one since I spent too much time resisting change.

joyweesemoll
joyweesemoll

Fun post! Love the photo and the great way you have of talking to your 20-year-old self.

AnnDunnewold
AnnDunnewold

Love your tone, Lynn--playful, loving, no nonsense. Wish someone had talked to me like that.

bakeforme
bakeforme

"Lose the drama," hah! Could have been the mantra of everyone who was within earshot of my voice!

Grown and Flown
Grown and Flown

Lynn, One thing many of us shared was a sense of how right we were - pretty much all the time! Love the photo and your suggestion that you kiss your hippie bearded boyfriend of 5 years "goodbye!" You probably had to learn that one the hard way.  Thanks for the wonderful post.

notasupermom
notasupermom

I love this, Lynn.Really enjoy seeing a picture of you at 20. It's the doozies that make us, right? I'd be a proud, hard person without some of the humbling experiences that made me. 

CarpoolGoddess
CarpoolGoddess

Great letter! I think we all grow up for the better having experienced those "doozies." God knows, I'm a better parent for it.

TheDivaofDating
TheDivaofDating

Nice post... full of upbeat advice for your younger self. 

lamark
lamark

If you've been able to "let 98% of what enters your Amygdala go its merry way," you have accomplished a ton! Lots to celebrate!

Knittinpeace
Knittinpeace

I love the advice to get on the love highway! 

jennsonthego
jennsonthego

It is so evident that you love yourself in this letter!! Awesome letter...makes me want to rethink my own.  Cheers, Jenn

LynnForbes2
LynnForbes2

Why are we so full of that drama when we're young? Actually, for me the drama hung around until about 8 or so years ago.

Chloe Jeffreys
Chloe Jeffreys

Great letter!! I love the way you've loved yourself in this letter. We forget that those 20 year old that were us might need a firm talking to, but they need us to be that soft place to land. They need to hear that their boneheaded decisions don't condemn them for life (well, not usually anyway) and that we'll survive and thrive despite them.

hbludman
hbludman

Great post! I should have heeded the warning about the drama myself. Man, was I am drama queen.

juliedanis
juliedanis

Lose the drama...great advice...but I'm not sure I knew how to decide what was drama and what was just life!

LynnForbes2
LynnForbes2

Thank you, @MarciRich. I sometimes wonder if my now self would meet my then self what would we think of each other, would we like each other? i think there would have been a lot of eye rolling :)

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